Monday, March 20, 2017

Workin' It Wednesday: Balancing Work & Home Life


Workin' It Wednesday on a Monday!
(rescheduled link up)

So Erika and Shay started a new linkup in January called Workin' It Wednesday.  They have been so fun and this month we are talking about how we balance work & home life.  

Take a look at what you may have missed in month's past.


So as part of balancing work and home life... most important-take care of you.  So with that-I have a fun day planned for myself.  After school I have a babysitter coming and I am going to pamper myself... relax and enjoy.  Sounds like a dream, but its really happening and I am so excited. 

But back to business. 

OK so- I'll first start off by saying I am a stay at home mom... You know the kind of person that doesn't work "outside" the home.  

pregnant with evan

A lot of people look at us SAHMoms as people who don't work but lets be honest.  That isn't true.  We just don't work outside the home.  

pregnant with ryan

Here is my opinion. 
My job as a mother is the most rewarding role.  There is no greater gift, miracle, joy, or responsibility than being a parent.  No one can dispute that raising kids, particularly good kids, is a vitally important job.  For a lot of women, it might very well be their most important job even if they have another one.

Motherhood is my important job.

giving birth to evan


But to say that all women must share this sentiment is close-minded and insulating.  Women who don't want to - or can't have - children certainly have important work still to do.  Teachers and cancer specialists, brain surgeons, maternity nurse, and engineers- whether they're parents or not- may consider their chosen professions to be their most important job.  And for those of us in need of their expertise, we'd be wise to let them focus on it.

evan at birth

So, how do I balance it all?!?!  How about - how do I separate my needs and wants as person, as a wife, as a friend, as a sister, as a daughter... how do I put all that aside and be the best mother I can be... at all hours of the day, and night for the next 18 and if I am lucky 20 years.  

evan

That is the tricky part.  That is the part I haven't figured out yet.  We as mothers can't turn it off.  We can't leave "work" and go home.  My boss- he sees me naked when he wants a snack and I am in the shower.  My boss watches me pee first thing in the morning.  My boss climbs into the bath with me at the end of the day.  My boss cries when I say it's time to go to bed. 

 My boss is my biggest accomplishment.  My boss is my greatest achievement.  My boss is the reason I wake up every day.   My boss is the best thing that has ever happened to me. 

So.  How do you do it? 

evan
Admit that you can't do everything for everyone. Giving your all to your children is admirable, but it can leave you feeling drained. Taking on an overly abundant list of child-related tasks -- such as your church's  bake sale, your preschooler's class reading time and your mommy and me yoga class, along with your normal daily tasks of bathing, feeding and spending play time with your kids -- will leave roughly zero hours and zero minutes for your husband. While you shouldn't shirk all of your parenting responsibilities, you can bow out of the occasional chore -- such as heading the school fundraiser -- to spend some of your day with your spouse.


 giving birth to ryan

ryan

Ask for help. There's nothing wrong with asking for someone else to step in occasionally. 
Make couple time for you and your husband. Schedule a date night once a week -- or once every other week if necessary -- where someone else watches the kids. 


ryan


Listen to your husband, and ask him to listen to you. While the bulk of your communication may revolve around which child has swim lessons and which one has soccer, you need to take time to talk about more adult-like issues. 




Don't forget that your husband has feelings too. Although he might not always say that he is feeling neglected, he may not understand why you shower the kids with love, but treat him like a stranger.

All in all, being a stay at home mom is hard.  I make it work by juggling all parts equally.  Most important... I can't pour from an empty cup.  I need to take care of myself.... 

As the saying goes...  If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!

I am so so so excited for the next link up.  Spring cleaning is my favorite time of year.  I love it, look forward to it, drag it out through summer, and could talk about it for days.  Make sure to check back for this one, it will be a doozy.

See ya'll tomorrow friends.







1 comment:

  1. I'm not a mom yet, but I love how you captured this in words! My mom was a SAHM and as an adult, I admire so much what she did for our home and family!

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